I have noticed that recently, there is a number of individuals who seem to think that something that causes a lot of pain is really funny. So in a display of solidarity and inspired by Ducky, I want to put out an open plee to stop this idiocy. It isn't funny. It isn't clever and unless you have been there, it is impossible to put in to words just how much hell it can put a person through.
I am talking about the subject of rape.
I was raped. First time was regularly for a whole 6 week period when I was 12. I knew the person who did it and he had spent most of my time at primary school picking on me. I am not naming names, purely because I don't want to give that person the satisfaction of knowing that he hurt me. I never pressed charges because I was too frightened and was told that if I did then I would be killed. When I did speak out once, I was assaulted by this person and since had to live with the fear and knowing that this person violated me at such a young age. It happened once again when I was 15, again I knew the guy and was too afraid to press any charges.
The long term effect on me was that it took me a long time to learn to trust people, especially men, again. I still wake up in the middle of the night because of flashbacks and still don't like certain sights, sounds or smells that can trigger a flashback.
Rape isn't funny and it isn't something that should be taken lightly. If you have had it happen to you, I do urge you to speak out and not let these animals win.
2 years ago